Mind what goes in and out of your mouth.

Be mindful. It’s imperative to healthy living. Don’t put junk into your mouth. Don’t spit out junk out of your mouth. You might regret it. Because you can’t take back anything. I learned it the hard way. I have hurt people’s feelings carelessly.  I have hurt myself. So it is my personal philosophy in life. To be mindful of what goes out and into my mouth.

Back in the days when I was a teacher, I was trying to comfort a co-worker/friend devastated over a situation at work. Some of her co-workers had requested intervention with her. They cited incidences of careless words that hurt them and their work. Can you believe that? Me, a nice person. Always trying to help others. Do you think I am like that? She asked me.  I was in a tight spot. I hate lying. I hated telling her the truth. Especially at this moment.

She ordered another beer, thanks to my relief. It was her third beer. By then she had eaten an order of tater tots and onion rings.

 

I listened as she went on her monologue. Then after she got tired of talking, she asked me what I thought. I am, in some ways, a timid person. I don’t like conflict. And this particular friend of mine always intimidated me. I never felt comfortable with her loud, obnoxious comments about people. Reluctant, I agreed with her all the time.

You are a nice person. You have a good heart. I started with that. And she did. She was the first to step up to help others. She initiated baby showers, wedding showers, fundraisers for her coworkers. Yet, if anybody criticized her activity, she spewed out sh*t about them. She ended up isolating her coworkers more than uniting them. All good intentions and actions were diminished by unpleasant words.

My point here is you aren’t mindful of the words that come out of your mouth your good deeds aren’t appreciated.

Even though it may not be your intention. Words are powerful. You can’t take back anything. You can apologize. I said. Start fresh. People are receptive when you ask for forgiveness. If it’s genuine.

Before I could finish where I was going, irked by my response, she stood up. You are not listening to a word I am saying. She declared I am never mean. Sometimes people need reminding for their own good.

I began to apologize for the misunderstanding. But my friend instead accused me of not being a good friend.  And she left. I felt bad.

 

The check arrived. I ended up paying the bill.  After I signed the receipt. I smiled. Relieved. This may be an end to an awkward relationship I had suffered for a few years and didn’t have the balls to end. (More on how to weed out unpleasant people out of your lives)

Many notable people have lost their career or social standing because of careless and insensitive use of words. Donald Trump, not counting. Do you remember how the press crucified Hillary Clinton for the use of the word “deplorable”? Words that didn’t mean to hurt.

Premature deaths have occurred for careless consumption of harmful things. I have lost many dear family members to alcoholism and drugs.

Be mindful what goes into your mouth. That’s why we have alcoholics, drug addicts, obesity, to name a few.

Dr. Weston Price, a dentist from Cleveland, found in his research that tooth decay was related to diet. He traveled around the world, interviewing many natives. He discovered the natives had healthy teeth even though they didn’t brush like we did. It was a diet free of processed sugar and food.  Weston Price Organization

Weston Price diet is like Paleo diet. What I got out of it is if you start by eliminating processed food, you begin a path to healthy living. Even though I indulge my girls with sweets and donuts, I don’t allow processed food in the house. As a result, they don’t have cavities issues, nor do they have any affinity for unhealthy food. Teach them young. Why not?

So my friends, be mindful. What goes in and out of your mouth. It will serve you well in life. Even though I fail at times, I am very conscious of it. If I say something that was not intended the way it was perceived, I ask for forgiveness promptly.  We all make mistakes. But we have the immense capacity to change things.

This is one of the principles of my life I try to abide by. What are your life’s principles?
Please share. I want to learn more.

Foods we avoid at home

  • White Sugar
  • Cereals ( A few as a treat for the kids)
  • White bread ( we mostly use sour-dough bread)
  • Soda
  • Juice boxes
  • Boxed meals
  • Pasta ( I get freshly made pasta for the kids. We don’t do pasta dinners)
  • Pancakes or waffles
  • Milk ( I do grass-fed cow milk)
  • Cookies and store cakes ( One of my girls is a baker. She loves to bake so I will let her)
  • Chocolate or candies ( We only do dark chocolates and candies on Halloween)
  • Regular meat ( We only get farm meat through CSA or directly from the farmers)

 

Just the simple act of avoiding these foods have helped us.  It’s not difficult and doesn’t feel like we are depriving ourselves from anything. We also save money on health related issues and cook a lot at home.

3 Comments Add yours

  1. OLIVER BLESKIE says:

    Hours of fun on this website!
    Amazing photos
    Unassuming tone in the texts – very refreshing
    And a great source of inspiration
    I especially like the article about what goes in and out of our mouth
    The uses of our mouth has always fascinated me:
    eating
    salivating
    speaking
    smiling
    spitting
    smoking
    vomiting
    whistling and…
    kissing
    A stupefying range of good and bad things – like the human heart itself…

    Liked by 1 person

  2. olliebilly says:

    HOURS OF FUN ON THIS WEBSITE!
    Amazing photos
    Unassuming tone in the texts – very refreshing
    And a great source of inspiration
    I especially like the article about what goes in and out of our mouth
    The uses of our mouth has always fascinated me:
    eating
    salivating
    speaking
    smiling
    spitting
    smoking
    vomiting
    whistling and…
    kissing
    A stupefying range of good and bad things – like the human heart itself…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you. It also encourages me to write more.

      Like

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